The Second Arrow

"It's very hard to step back from that condemnation when we're feeling we're hurting ourselves or others," she says. "I asked him for now just to simply deepen his mindfulness to how he turns on himself." He recalls a recent event where he saw this wife had not mailed a letter that he had asked her to mail and it just brought up a rage. She was okay in terms of the biopsy, but not okay with what had happened between them. And then afterwards he remembered his father begging for his mother's forgiveness after being out of control as an 11-year-old boy.