Men Don't Have a Choice

If a young man says, i want to be a dad, let may ask you this comment below, commet below. That's because men never have a choice. As soon as we are old enough to know that we want a wife and or child, we have never been taught that we have the choice to do whatever we want to be. And by the way, that's because it is a man's role. I understand that, even in the time of dual income households, i'm not saying that a man shouldn't be a protector and provider. My issue is with applying it only when it's convenient. There's a give and take and a compromise. Where's the gift