I'm Not Perfectist but I Do Feel Like I Act the Same on the Subway or at a Restaurant

I have a severe fear of like inconveniencing or bothering other people and there's not a lot of examples where it's come to fruition but there's enough that have self perpetuated it. Like I remember this wasn't your fault but we were out to dinner with a group of friends once. We're at an Indian restaurant and this man from another table caught over and was like can you please be quiet. But it was like we actually were not being that loud. No we were actually being fun and he was also gross. Yeah in those moments that gave me so much anxiety.