How to Give a Gift That Will Last a Lifetime

E from Sweden is turning 30 this year and doesn't feel comfortable asking for gifts. A friend hinted at having a quote, huge unquote gift for me that I would quote, remember forever. She kept mentioning the price per person - which means she wants me to pay for both my plane ticket and hotel. Am I an ungrateful friend for feeling weird about this? Can I bring this up with her without making her feel bad about this?