You Don't Crave in Other People in the Same Way

I think compassion for others tends to stem from self compassion. And if you're being incredibly hard on yourself as to what you'd like to achieve and where you should be in life, i think you're going to be inherently hard on other people when it comes to those same traits. Yes, there is some form of fear in that. Your fearing, yes, perhaps your fearing, if you lacked it yourself, or if your partner lacked it, perhaps it would reflect something on you. I think it's always the ways in which other people can make you feel better about the parts of yourselve that you're working on  and you have a drive towards.