You’ve been there: the dreaded text fight.

One message gets misread, emotions spike, and suddenly you’re both typing paragraphs instead of actually talking.

In this episode, we’re breaking down a real-life text fight between a couple navigating mismatched sex drives, rejection, and the heavy mental load of parenting. You’ll hear the raw back-and-forth and get our thoughts on what worked, what didn’t, and how to move these conversations toward connection instead of conflict.

💛 In this episode, you’ll learn:

Why so many couples end up fighting about sex over text (and why it almost never goes well).
Why text is the worst place to argue (and how to get out of the spiral).
The hidden emotional needs behind “yes” and “no.”
How to express hurt feelings without slipping into blame.
How to validate your partner without abandoning your own boundaries.
Communication tips that will help you feel heard and understood — even in the heat of the moment.

If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a text fight with your partner, this one’s for you.

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#342 Empathic Intelligence

And Then It Hit Me with Cory Allen

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