Principles of Life
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20 Principles to Live By
In life, you're going to encounter a lot of bullies. Insecurity breeds bullies. Stand up to them for yourself and for others. The stigma of vulnerability has been broken. It's okay to admit we aren't okay. Strength comes from opening up to our vulnerabilities. And finally, love deeply. Life is so damn short. Never take it for granted. Tell people you love them before it's too late. All we need is love. Those were 20 plus principles I hope to teach my child to live by.
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Today at a Glance:
I recently found out I’m going to be a father. In reflecting on my own life, I sketched out a long list of principles I hope to teach my child as they grow up.
While I readily acknowledge that he will—as I did—have to fall painfully to learn many of these, I will do my best to teach—and embody!—all of them.
Perhaps I need to lower my expectations and embrace the chaos. I’ve never really been the type to walk away from a challenge, though, so consider this piece my stake in the ground.
Principles of Life
I recently found out I'm going to be a father.
I’ve always considered myself something of an introspective individual—I try to reflect regularly on my motivations, mistakes, learnings, principles, and frameworks. I find that the act of reflection provides value—it helps the good stick and the bad wither.
So perhaps it isn’t all that surprising that the news of my upcoming responsibility raise—to that of “Dad”—has taken my introspection to another level.
With that in mind, I sat down recently to sketch out a long list of principles of life—formed through my failures, missteps, stumbles, and successes—that I hope to be able to teach my child as they grow up.
While I readily acknowledge that he will—as I did—have to fall painfully to learn many of these, I will do my best to teach—and embody!—all of them.
With that as a backdrop, here are the 20+ principles I hope to teach my child to live by…
Be Interested
Talent is overrated—interest is not.
What does it mean to be interested? Interested people are prone to giving their deep attention to something to discover more about it. They ask questions, listen, & observe. They open up to the world around them.
Being interested is a key to a fulfilling life.
Show Up in the Darkest Hour
It's easy to be there for people to celebrate their wins. It takes character to show up for them in their darkest hour.
People never forget who supported them when the chips were down.
Be the friend who is always there—in good times and bad.
Different is Beautiful
When you’re a kid, you’re told that different is ugly. Growing up, I feared being different—I desperately wanted to fit in, but I couldn't figure out how.
Was I Indian or white? Was I an athlete or a nerd? The struggle to conform to a single identity led to bad decisions grounded in insecurity. The reality was I was all of those things. I was just different.
It took growing up and a lot of mistakes and soul searching to realize: being different is an edge—it’s the ultimate competitive advantage.
No one can compete with you, at being you.
Work Hard
If you want to accomplish anything in life, you have to work hard. Full stop.
But beware the hype. Hard work isn't the sexy, flashy social media posts saying "rise & grind”—it's the ugly, painful effort in the dark, when no one is watching.
If you want something, go get it. Period.
Be Kind to Others
Kindness remains severely underrated.
It fosters relationships, reduces stress and anxiety, and improves overall happiness.
When you are consistently, genuinely kind, you become a magnet for the highest-quality people.
Change Your Mind
Willingness to change one's mind is a rarity in today's society.
It's great to have a strong view, but always open your mind to counterarguments.
Stubborn objection to alternative perspectives stalls progress. Strive for strong opinions, weakly held.
Operate in Your Zone of Genius
Your Zone of Genius is where your interests, passions and skills align.
Operating in your Zone of Genius means playing games you are uniquely well-suited to win. Once you identify it, you can stop playing *their* games and start playing *yours*.
Be Accountable
A sad, troubling reality: Life isn't fair.
But instead of wasting energy on every obstacle in your way, focus on what you can control and how you can break through the wall.
Stop looking out. Look in. Own your s***.
Listen More & Argue Less
Have you noticed that the most argumentative people rarely persuade anyone of anything?
The most persuasive people don’t argue—they observe, listen, and ask questions.
Argue less, persuade more. Persuasion is an art that requires a paintbrush, not a sledgehammer.
Follow Your Curiosity
Humans are born with astonishing curiosity. But somewhere along the way, we're told to stop asking questions.
Push back. Learn to follow your curiosity—trust it.
For the curious mind, anything is possible. Fortune favors the curious.
Closed Mouths Don't Get Fed
A little push goes a long way.
Don't sit back and wait for good things to happen. If you want something—and you’ve put in the work for it—ask for it.
Worst case: you’re told no and nothing has changed.
Best case: it’s yours.
Never Get Too Big to Do the Small
The leaders of the New Zealand All Blacks rugby team famously stay late to sweep the shed after a match.
Whether you're in the mailroom or the corner office, never get too big to do the small things well.
Remember: Small things become big things.
Be Present
With the rise of technology—and the instant access to dopamine that it has provided—the ability to be truly present has become a rarity.
When you’re with someone—whether a business contact, friend, or partner—be WITH them.
Put the phone down.
Be Antifragile
In Greek mythology, the Hydra is a creature that has multiple heads. When 1 head is cut off, 2 grow back in its place.
Life is random and chaotic. Don't be broken by the chaos—rather, adopt a mentality and build structure such that you will benefit from it.
Don't Be Afraid to Get Punched in the Face
You have to fail more to succeed more.
Our greatest moments of growth often stem directly from our greatest failures. Don’t fear failure, just learn to fail smart and fast.
Getting ...
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Today’s newsletter is brought to you by Eight Sleep!
Eight Sleep has legitimately changed my life.
Great sleep = great performance. Sleep is the secret weapon of the world’s top performers. Thousands of CEOs, investors, and operators—and this humble newsletter writer—rely on the Eight Sleep Pod Pro to power their performance. It has patented technology to help you sleep at the perfect temperature all night, which research has shown can make you fall asleep faster and sleep deeper—so you can wake up energized to attack the day.
Special Offer: For a limited time, Curiosity Chronicle subscribers can use the special link below to get $250 off on their first Eight Sleep purchase!
Today at a Glance:
I recently found out I’m going to be a father. In reflecting on my own life, I sketched out a long list of principles I hope to teach my child as they grow up.
While I readily acknowledge that he will—as I did—have to fall painfully to learn many of these, I will do my best to teach—and embody!—all of them.
Perhaps I need to lower my expectations and embrace the chaos. I’ve never really been the type to walk away from a challenge, though, so consider this piece my stake in the ground.
Principles of Life
I recently found out I'm going to be a father.
I’ve always considered myself something of an introspective individual—I try to reflect regularly on my motivations, mistakes, learnings, principles, and frameworks. I find that the act of reflection provides value—it helps the good stick and the bad wither.
So perhaps it isn’t all that surprising that the news of my upcoming responsibility raise—to that of “Dad”—has taken my introspection to another level.
With that in mind, I sat down recently to sketch out a long list of principles of life—formed through my failures, missteps, stumbles, and successes—that I hope to be able to teach my child as they grow up.
While I readily acknowledge that he will—as I did—have to fall painfully to learn many of these, I will do my best to teach—and embody!—all of them.
With that as a backdrop, here are the 20+ principles I hope to teach my child to live by…
Be Interested
Talent is overrated—interest is not.
What does it mean to be interested? Interested people are prone to giving their deep attention to something to discover more about it. They ask questions, listen, & observe. They open up to the world around them.
Being interested is a key to a fulfilling life.
Show Up in the Darkest Hour
It's easy to be there for people to celebrate their wins. It takes character to show up for them in their darkest hour.
People never forget who supported them when the chips were down.
Be the friend who is always there—in good times and bad.
Different is Beautiful
When you’re a kid, you’re told that different is ugly. Growing up, I feared being different—I desperately wanted to fit in, but I couldn't figure out how.
Was I Indian or white? Was I an athlete or a nerd? The struggle to conform to a single identity led to bad decisions grounded in insecurity. The reality was I was all of those things. I was just different.
It took growing up and a lot of mistakes and soul searching to realize: being different is an edge—it’s the ultimate competitive advantage.
No one can compete with you, at being you.
Work Hard
If you want to accomplish anything in life, you have to work hard. Full stop.
But beware the hype. Hard work isn't the sexy, flashy social media posts saying "rise & grind”—it's the ugly, painful effort in the dark, when no one is watching.
If you want something, go get it. Period.
Be Kind to Others
Kindness remains severely underrated.
It fosters relationships, reduces stress and anxiety, and improves overall happiness.
When you are consistently, genuinely kind, you become a magnet for the highest-quality people.
Change Your Mind
Willingness to change one's mind is a rarity in today's society.
It's great to have a strong view, but always open your mind to counterarguments.
Stubborn objection to alternative perspectives stalls progress. Strive for strong opinions, weakly held.
Operate in Your Zone of Genius
Your Zone of Genius is where your interests, passions and skills align.
Operating in your Zone of Genius means playing games you are uniquely well-suited to win. Once you identify it, you can stop playing *their* games and start playing *yours*.
Be Accountable
A sad, troubling reality: Life isn't fair.
But instead of wasting energy on every obstacle in your way, focus on what you can control and how you can break through the wall.
Stop looking out. Look in. Own your s***.
Listen More & Argue Less
Have you noticed that the most argumentative people rarely persuade anyone of anything?
The most persuasive people don’t argue—they observe, listen, and ask questions.
Argue less, persuade more. Persuasion is an art that requires a paintbrush, not a sledgehammer.
Follow Your Curiosity
Humans are born with astonishing curiosity. But somewhere along the way, we're told to stop asking questions.
Push back. Learn to follow your curiosity—trust it.
For the curious mind, anything is possible. Fortune favors the curious.
Closed Mouths Don't Get Fed
A little push goes a long way.
Don't sit back and wait for good things to happen. If you want something—and you’ve put in the work for it—ask for it.
Worst case: you’re told no and nothing has changed.
Best case: it’s yours.
Never Get Too Big to Do the Small
The leaders of the New Zealand All Blacks rugby team famously stay late to sweep the shed after a match.
Whether you're in the mailroom or the corner office, never get too big to do the small things well.
Remember: Small things become big things.
Be Present
With the rise of technology—and the instant access to dopamine that it has provided—the ability to be truly present has become a rarity.
When you’re with someone—whether a business contact, friend, or partner—be WITH them.
Put the phone down.
Be Antifragile
In Greek mythology, the Hydra is a creature that has multiple heads. When 1 head is cut off, 2 grow back in its place.
Life is random and chaotic. Don't be broken by the chaos—rather, adopt a mentality and build structure such that you will benefit from it.
Don't Be Afraid to Get Punched in the Face
You have to fail more to succeed more.
Our greatest moments of growth often stem directly from our greatest failures. Don’t fear failure, just learn to fail smart and fast.
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