358: Helping Withdrawers Name Their Pain in the Sexual Cycle
Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy
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The Therapist's Strategy Is to Keep the Emotional Temperature Down
The therapist has a choice. She can go for the emotional cycle and try to get deeper there or she could maybe hear something else. But in this case, she's trying to deepen him and imagine what it's like for him emotionally when his wife is complaining about not making more money. And of course, he's like, no way am I going to go there. Where are you, lady? You know, so, okay. This is partners too. When you try to get your withdrawn emotional partner to engage around things that they're defended against, we want to start expecting that defensiveness.
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