Sex Is Not Ours

John Kim (aka "The Angry Therapist") and Vanessa Bennet are world-class relationship therapists, podcast hosts, bestselling authors AND life partners. The couple joins Jamey, Liz and guest host Andy Grammer for a vulnerable and eye-opening conversation about the messy work of relationships. 

​​John and Vanessa break down red flags in dating, therapy for men, how to set healthy boundaries for yourself and others, tapping into masculine & feminine energy, and how to navigate mismatched desires within couples.

​​Plus, don't miss a sneak peek of an unreleased song from Andy at the end. 

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The Man Enough Podcast is produced by Wayfarer Studios and presented by Procter and Gamble, in partnership with Cadence13, an Audacy company.

Read It’s Not Me It’s You

Together, John & Vanessa have written this book, analyzing their own relationship to help untangle the common and frustrating barriers many individuals face on the road to a happy, loving, rewarding partnership.

About John Kim & Vanessa Bennett:

John Kim, also known as The Angry Therapist, is a published writer, speaker, life coach, and a co-founder of The TAT Lab and Lumia–Life Coach Training and Community. He built a coaching team of his own and launched a sister company called JRNI, creating a new way to help people. 

Vanessa Bennett is an author, holistic psychotherapist, and codependency expert. Her therapeutic approach integrates years of study and practice in Depth, Buddhist, and Yoga Psychology. She co-hosts the Cheaper Than Therapy Podcast, leads soul-based retreats and workshops, and creates and facilitates curriculum for non-profit and corporate events and conferences.

Show Notes 

00:00 Episode Starts

02:36 Intros  

07:34 Red Flags In Dating 

09:58 The Misconception of The One

15:36 Why Men Don’t Champion Therapy 

19:05 Cutting Boys Off From Their Emotional Selves 

27:22 Holding Your Friends Accountable 

43:48 Caregiving vs Caretaking 

48:34 John’s Poem 

51:56 Disconnected Desires 

01:06:22 From Judgment to Curiosity 

01:09:22 Andy’s Song 

01:13:31 What Does it Mean to be Man Enough 

Key Quotes from the Episode: 

“Taking a second to ask ‘what else could be true?’ is incredibly helpful in relationships…it turns the dial from Judgement to Curiosity” - Vanessa Bennett & John Kim

“It’s important to have conversations in locker rooms, be the trojan horse, if you’re there and you’ve gone through some type of hero’s journey then you need to lead by example…share it with your friends.” - John Kim  

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John Kim 

• Instagram: @theangrytherapist 
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Vanessa Bennett

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• Facebook:@vanessabennettcoaching

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