Clear, honest, and effective communication is the cornerstone of high-performing leadership. Yet, despite communicating constantly, many leaders and teams struggle to connect, align, and truly collaborate. At the heart of the challenge are unconscious habits and patterns—often inherited from families, cultures, and early experiences—that keep conversations stuck in autopilot, limit understanding, and erode trust.

Timestamped Overview

[00:04:22] Why Communication Goes Wrong: Exploring the challenges of human conversation and why so many leaders struggle with it.
[00:06:20] The Blueprint for Better Conversations: Introduction to the need for practical frameworks and new distinctions in how we talk.
[00:09:13] The Four Types of Conversations: Overview—storytelling, collaborative, creative, and commitment conversations.
[00:09:59] Storytelling Conversations: Understanding how personal narratives shape our interactions and create conflict.
[00:12:01] Moving from Closed Fists to Open Hands: How to transition from ego-driven debates to open, collaborative exchanges.
[00:13:34] Real-Life Example: Patterns of communication and the impact of ego on conversation flow.
[00:20:29] Leveraging Team Members’ Stories: How leaders can recognize and work with the stories their team members hold.
[00:22:26] The Four Archetypal Questions: Desires, concerns, power, and standards—tools for unpacking judgments and opening dialogue.
[00:30:05] Vulnerability and Humility in Leadership: The courage to share what’s under the surface and model new ways of interacting.
[00:30:38] Using Questions to Open Others Up: How to help team members articulate their thinking and move beyond stuck positions.
[00:32:21] The Link to Psychological Safety: Creating the conditions where people feel safe to contribute and challenge.
[00:37:41] The Commitment Conversation: The importance of clear requests, counteroffers, and following through on promises.
[00:42:51] The Creative Conversation: Making space for possibility and collaborative idea generation.
[00:46:18] Avoiding Conversational Bypass: The risk of skipping collaboration and creativity in favor of action.
[00:51:17] Tracking Your Communication Patterns: How leaders can develop awareness and shift out of unhelpful habits.

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Ulla Lohmann

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