Relationships - How to Bring Out the Best in People

When you treat people with contempt, often it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy and they act in ways that are contemptible. I'm shocked at the language of contempt and dishonor and disrespect I hear between spouses. Your spouse will likely live into what you say is true about them. See the same thing in parenting, I'll hear frustrated parents saying things like, oh little Johnny, he's such a devil. And normally little Johnny is a devil. But I always wonder like what came first, the chicken or the egg? Like well he's hearing his parent say in public he's a devil. What do you expect him to act like when his mother whose job is to nurture