The Importance of Sex in Marriage

When a man's continued high sex drive is met with contempt disapproval condescension etc that's the empathic rupture so if you want to talk to your wife and change the frame a always lead with how stupid you are. like say that type of shit to you because I'm busy with my job that would be a tremendous empathic rupture. She may not have ever valued your pleasure at all but for her it's like she was hungry so she ate now she's not hungry so she doesn't eat and to her that makes total sense. The limerick stage only stops when uncertainty is resolved uncertainty about whether you'll remain together is pretty much resolved with marriage.