Softening shame with curiosity

How do you learn how to get over drunken mistakes when the same patterns keep repeating? Jennifer spent years convincing herself that each catastrophic night was just an isolated incident—until she couldn't ignore the data points anymore. Raised to suppress her emotions in a predominantly white neighborhood as a Salvadorian, she developed an identity crisis early on that followed her into adulthood. From blackouts at age 21 to nights in jail, from ruined relationships to a devastating trip to Cabo that nearly cost her everything, Jennifer's story reveals the brutal honesty required for change. In this episode, Jennifer joins Coach Cole to explore how childhood trauma shapes adult coping mechanisms, why shame keeps us stuck in destructive cycles, and how journaling and compassion can illuminate the path forward.

Jennifer and Coach Cole discuss:

Seeing “slip-ups” as compassionate data points instead of proof you’ve failed.

Jennifer’s “nine fine, one catastrophic” pattern that exposes the truth about moderation.

How insecurity, FOMO, and feeling out of place quietly drove her drinking choices.

Hearing “You cannot drink” from family as loving clarity and necessary boundaries.

Using honest journaling to remember the full impact of drinking when cravings show up.

How to get over drunken mistakes by softening shame and meeting yourself with curiosity and grace.

And more…

Related Episodes:

What Are The Signs of Relapse? | Reader Question | E708 - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-708-readers-question-what-are-the-signs-of-relapse/

How Do You Deal With Feeling Ashamed or Embarrassed About Drinking? | Reader Question | E406 - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-406-reader-question-how-do-you-deal-with-feeling-ashamed-or-embarrassed-about-drinking/

How To Explore Drinking Without Judgment | Alcohol Freedom Coaching | E813 - https://thisnakedmind.com/how-to-explore-drinking-without-judgment-alcohol-freedom-coaching-e813/

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