The Power of Questioning

"There's a spectrum of these specific situations that were, you know, dangerous and escalated," she says. "In the moment that I described in the group, it's success stories, like, I had no idea it was performing." She believes women see men in the gym much more subtle about it because they're not trying to disrespect another human being. But in the process of objectification, this is my pursuit. It's an ugly quality, but it's kind of like a primal quality, like they're trying to express to other people that.

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Community becomes more important than ideology when you feel completely alone.

We’re joined by former skinhead turned feminist activist, Graham Finochio, to talk about the radicalization of young, isolated men, how the prison system fails men and how being called in to accountability and community can create radical acceptance and change. Orphaned at 14, Graham shares stories of his upbringing, his lack of support and community, his radicalization during homlessness and the program, Success Stories, that challenged his ideologies and changed his heart during his final days in prison.

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About Graham Finochio:

Graham Finochio is an community organizer and Success Stories Coach Coordinator helping people who have done harm to others, create a more peaceful world through feminism. Graham was formerly incarcerated at Deuel Vocational Institute in Tracy, California and spent around 20 years of his life in and out of the prison industrial system. He came home in February of 2019 and is a coach at three prisons in the central valley and multiple reentry programs in Southern California.

SHOW NOTES

03:18- Introducing Graham Finochio

07:32 - Graham's Story

12:03 - The "System" is Flawed and Designed to Lure in Lost Souls

13:56 - Success Stories, Prison Feminist Program

17:17 - Graham Was Confronted About His Beliefs

22:17 - To Create Change, Graham Had to Challenge Everything

26:42 - Graham's Message to Young Men

34:40 - Liz’s Experience With Pack Mentality

47:58 - The Biggest Lesson Graham Learned

Key Quotes from the Episode:

“Is this working for you?” - Graham
“My favorite people on the planet are people that have been broken, and are transformative…that means you’ve done work.” - Jamey
“Objectifying women in society is a way to prove that you are a man.“ – Liz
“You can’t idealize love.” - Graham

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