The book is at its best when it's doing some of the patriarchy, hurts the man stuff. He spends a lot of time on like, here are the ways you can hear the ways you are probably feeling about that. When he's giving you tools to do something you already want to do, it's at its strongest. There's also a section in the third month about a dealing with grief and miscarriages. It was very tough, and i really found helpful.