How to Control Your Intentions and Actions

We all seem to grow up believing that. Andits so hard to stop blaming and saying somebody else caused our happiness or uhappiness. In a domination culture, you want to use guilt as a tool for getting people to do what you want. We can't be responsible for something over which we have no control. I can control my intentions. I'm responsible. So i have the intention to express honest to you something that you've done that is not in harmony with my needs. That's my intention, and i do it the best way i can. It would hurt you if, in bad amer i say it. You see when you don't get these concepts of responsibility clarified.