If you can't forgive yourself for being angry, understand that emotions are information first and foremost. Start by asking yourself, what is the anger telling me? What is the anger saying? We have to listen it doesn't mean follow what it wants you to do. Listening to it means literally listening to it, or not iges metaphorically, listening to it. As we listen to our anger, as we start to recognize, okay, where are you coming from, it starts to build a healthy relationship with it.