The Dismantling of a Life

In this chapter, they discuss the necessary dismantling of the speaker's life as part of their autobiography. They talk about growing up as a religious and missionary kid, experiencing sexual abuse and a difficult father, and resorting to addictive behaviors. They also discuss living from the outside in, constantly seeking validation from others. The collapse of the speaker's facade is triggered by a phone call from their spouse, revealing an affair. They then talk about the options they faced, including facing their spouse or contemplating suicide. They also mention finding a therapeutic relationship to help let go of control. The chapter ends with the speaker acknowledging the intensity of their spouse's fury and how it played a role in saving their life.