Am, i know the way that we grieve can be very idiosyncratic based on so many factors. I think one of the aspects that is also not kind of recognized is there's a dual process of facing the reality that this person is no longer physically present but what we feel for them, our love for them, never dies. And so it isn't about forgetting and moving on. It's about remember ing and connecting. The pain kind of allows some connection between the two, where the head and the heart are feeling it at the same time. In that moment, as you knowit, you kind of adjust an accommodate. And then it frees you to have a little breather