How Do We Value Ourself More Than the Inherent Good in Others?

Zoe: How do I learn to see the inherent good in me enough to be able to value it more than this other person? Zoe: You might not be able to let yourself fully meet these people because you don't think you deserve it. And so just think about all of this energy that you're expending justifying this or cementing your own self-loathing, what if you turned that energy towards bettering your life and your relationship to yourself?"