I'm 21 and I Love Him and He Loves Me

I understand that he has a a d h d, a condition that he can't control. That he's not being lazy, but it often presents his laziness. If you feel like i'm 21, and i can lovingly let go of this situation and say, it's harmful to me then you would do the same if he had covid. It doesn't mean that you won't end up together. Catherine, where's the line between changing for a partner and growing or trying something new?