Debunking Attachment Myths #2
Psychology In Seattle Podcast
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Avoidant Attachment Is Not Simple Coldness
Kirk clarifies avoidant behaviors as protective strategies rather than evidence of selfishness or lack of care.
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Dr Kirk Honda reviews an article by Dr Pascal Vrticka that debunks myths about attachment theory.
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.
00:00 Dr. Pascal Vrticka
01:04 Are dads 'secondary moms'?
02:13 Is the Triune Brain Model a good explanation of attachment?
09:13 Is synchrony better for attachment?
29:53 Is Oxytocin just the love hormone?
36:31 Is Polyvagal Theory supported by current literature?
45:31 Are there parenting hacks that work for everybody?
49:41 Is there really a left and right brain?
50:51 Does attachment involve more than just fear and stress?
52:38 Why is parent-child bonding important to say?
53:13 Do parents always need to be 'on'?
54:03 Is attachment parenting based on attachment theory?
1:10:55 Should parents let their babies cry it out?
1:15:25 Do we inherit our attachment style?
1:26:24 Are Buddhism and attachment theory related?
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November 3, 2025
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Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.
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This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Give online therapy a try at betterhelp.com/KIRK to get 10% off your first month.
00:00 Dr. Pascal Vrticka
01:04 Are dads 'secondary moms'?
02:13 Is the Triune Brain Model a good explanation of attachment?
09:13 Is synchrony better for attachment?
29:53 Is Oxytocin just the love hormone?
36:31 Is Polyvagal Theory supported by current literature?
45:31 Are there parenting hacks that work for everybody?
49:41 Is there really a left and right brain?
50:51 Does attachment involve more than just fear and stress?
52:38 Why is parent-child bonding important to say?
53:13 Do parents always need to be 'on'?
54:03 Is attachment parenting based on attachment theory?
1:10:55 Should parents let their babies cry it out?
1:15:25 Do we inherit our attachment style?
1:26:24 Are Buddhism and attachment theory related?
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November 3, 2025
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Trigger Warning: This episode may include topics such as assault, trauma, and discrimination. If necessary, listeners are encouraged to refrain from listening and care for their safety and well-being.
Disclaimer: The content provided is for educational, informational, and entertainment purposes only. Nothing here constitutes personal or professional consultation, therapy, diagnosis, or creates a counselor-client relationship. Topics discussed may generate differing points of view. If you participate (by being a guest, submitting a question, or commenting) you must do so with the knowledge that we cannot control reactions or responses from others, which may not agree with you or feel unfair. Your participation on this site is at your own risk, accepting full responsibility for any liability or harm that may result. Anything you write here may be used for discussion or endorsement of the podcast. Opinions and views expressed by the host and guest hosts are personal views. Although, we take precautions and fact check, they should not be considered facts and the opinions may change. Opinions posted by participants (such as comments) are not those of the hosts. Readers should not rely on any information found here and should perform due diligence before taking any action. For a more extensive description of factors for you to consider, please see www.psychologyinseattle.com
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