You have every right to respond to it in a way that helps you live your life the way you wish to. It isn't a matter of coming to agreement, it's a matter of recognizing and accepting that your partner has an attitude that they are. And sometimes what you might choose to do might be say, hey, I'd really like to see if I can convince you to think differently about this.
Many romantic relationships touched by ADHD are marked by misunderstandings and emotional outbursts. Effective communication skills, however, can be learned. Melissa Orlov teaches strategies that will resolve conflict with your partner.