Relationships - What's Connection?

We all have that default mode. We carry the way we once connect it with us into adult hood. As we show up and bear witness, or consciously watch ourselves living those same terns at that moment, it becomes n our responsibility to change the way we show up. So this connection that we're talking about, as with all things on our healing journey, it is an inside job. I can't want something so much for that person over there that they'll make it happen. The only thing i can do now is put a mere back on me and realize that i'm the one that then gets to take the actions.