I've Been Through a Lot of Abuse, and I'm Not Sure What to Do About It, but It's a Good Thing.

i think what i really like about i f s is just not, it kind of removes the fine old judgment or like label. No child wants to criticise their parents - that's just kind of an inherent thing. But there are certain experiences that are more charged than other ones and how your parents respond in those situations can really affect you. Your parent might have responded amazingly to like, everything in your life, except when you were like really having a really difficult time,. and then they didn't respond in that way. And so that creates Like a specific kind of issue for you, or a specifickind of insecure attachment in that way - but it doesn't mean that you weren't