Book Bans, Grief, and Love: What Do These Have to Do With Social Movements? with Malkia Devich-Cyril
It’s OK That You’re Not OK with Megan Devine
The Role of Grief in Social Movements
Every social movement is a response to loss of some kind, he says. Grief "is governing you one way or another," the activist adds. The work isn't about erasing grief and using your grief as fuel, but how do we come to this both intimate and universal experience?
Whether you’re interested in social justice or not, there’s no denying the grief simmering beneath the surface of daily life. It’s in our personal lives, it’s in the news, it’s in our communities. The thing is - we never really talk about it: just how much grief connects us.
If we learn to lean into that grief together, we might really create the beautiful world we all long for.
Malkia Devich-Cyril knows grief from the inside out. They grew up knowing their mom would die of her illness. They grew up immersed in the grief that is endemic to being Black in America. And they cared for their wife, comedian Alana Devich-Cyril through her death in 2018.
Malkia is a poet and media activist. They are the executive director of the MediaJustice, and a co-founder of the Media Action Grassroots Network. Their writings on media, race, justice, and grief frequently appear in national publications such as Politico, The Guardian, and The Atlantic, and in the Oscar nominated documentary film, 13th.
This episode is STUNNING. It has gifts for everyone, whether you’re grieving a personal loss, or you’re an activist of any kind.
If you ARE an activist or organizer, you need to hear what Malkia has to say about our narrative strategies, and what it really takes to make change happen.
In this episode we cover:
- The difference between sorrow and grief
- How “feelings aren’t facts” relates to grief
- Is it normal to feel like you failed to keep someone alive?
- Why do narrative strategists (aka: activists) need to understand grief?
- Are book bans a form of grief? (spoiler: yes, but maybe not for the reasons you think)
- Why death is “the ultimate boundary” - and how to find hope in that
Related episodes:
Rage Becomes Her (and by “her” I mean US) with Soraya Chemaly
Collective Grief and Communal Joy: with Baratunde Thurston
Wonder in an Age of Violence: Valarie Kaur & See No Stranger
For more on the shortage of compassion, see The Love Filled World: is there enough love to go around?
Notable quotes:
“Sadness is a critical, crucial part of acknowledging the reality of our conditions. So I believe in sorrow. The point is not to exclude sorrow, it's to include joy. It's to include anger. It's to allow ourselves the full range of what acknowledging loss means.” - Malkia Devich-Cyril
“A hurting person wants to bond with other hurting people, but they're also not gonna stay in a movement that is only dealing with pain.” - Malkia Devich-Cyril
About our guest:
Malkia Devich-Cyril is an activist, writer and public speaker on issues of digital rights, narrative power, Black liberation and collective grief. They are also the founding and former Executive Director of MediaJustice — a national hub boldly advancing racial justice, rights and dignity in a digital age. Their writing has appeared in publications like Politico, Motherboard, Essence Magazine, and three documentary films including the Oscar nominated 13th. Find them @culturejedi on Twitter and @radical_loss on Instagram.
Read Grief Belongs in Social Movements: We Embrace it?
About Megan:
Psychotherapist and bestselling author Megan Devine is recognized as one of today’s most insightful and original voices on grief, from life-altering losses to the everyday grief that we don’t call grief. She helms a consulting practice in Los Angeles and serves as an organizational consultant for the healthcare and human resources industries.
The best-selling book on grief in over a decade, Megan’s It’s Ok that You’re Not OK, is a global phenomenon that has been translated into more than 25 languages. Her celebrated animations and explainers have garnered over 75 million views and are used in training programs around the world.
Additional resources:
“The Antidote to Authoritarianism” by Malkia Devich-Cyril, The Atlantic
Media Action Grassroots Network
Want to become a more grief-informed, human-centered therapist or provider? Registration is open now for Megan Devine’s 6 month online Grief Care Professional Certificate Program. Details at this link.
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Check out Megan’s best-selling books - It’s OK That You're Not OK and How to Carry What Can’t Be Fixed
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