When lila is having a tantrum, that feeling of being like just is not worth it. It's an opportunity to train her distress tolerance. If we cut it off very quickly, then we're shortening her distress to ance. But if we are, like, we can sit in this for as long as we need to, then she has, she's growing a very lon iunkno wide distress tolerance. That's even the comes up with the being honest about our feelings thing.