What's Alive in You, Needs Feelings?

"Needs feelings can be used in a destructive way if we try to imply that other people's behavior is the cause of our feelings," she says. "We were educated in gilt inducing ways by authorities, teachers, parents, who wanted to use guilt to mobilize us to do what they wanted." 'Sticks and stones can break my bones, but names can never hurt me,' one six-year-old told her neighbour when he called her a name.