Observations Verses Evaluations

If there's a real diagree and both sides feel equally strong, we will flip a coin. We will let lady luck decide. You just have to both agree. This strategy will protect you from contempt. So the way that you avoid making things personal is you have to figure out way of communicating with another in a way that will not be threatening. There's an amazing book on this am it's called non violent communication by marshal rosenberg. And it helps you be honest with other people, without criticising, without insulting a without putting down other people. In the magic comes in the structure that feels somewhat fakue for people who are not into being touchy feely