How to Talk to Your Partner Safely

The first thing when talking with your partner is creating this judgment free zone and container. You can't talk to your friends about it because I'm probably going to be embarrassed about some of this shit I'm going to say. But you can brain dump and that's something that you and your partner, partners can commit to doing so that you get it all out on the table and see what you have in common. And then second after that, which isn't second, it's first but it makes sense is getting consent with everything that happens - remembering that consent can expire. So no matter what you consent to agree to trying, five seconds into that you can say you're not having fun anymore