How often do you say no?
In this episode, I unpack the beautiful mess that is boundary-setting—with stories, psychology, and a touch of Brexit. This episode dives deep into what it really means to assert your needs.
Boundaries aren’t about building walls—they’re more like installing a front door with a lock you actually use. We explore why people-pleasing kills self-respect, how resentment creeps in when you’re too “nice,” and why your future depends on the limits you’re willing to draw today.
What you’ll take away:
- 10 signs of poor boundaries
- How to spot a weak boundary before it drains your energy
- Why saying no can be the kindest thing you do
- You teach people how to treat you by what you tolerate
- How to identify emotional manipulation in everyday relationships
- A quadrant model that makes difficult conversations easier
Listen now if you’re ready to stop being agreeable and start being respected.
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Episode: Eat, Pray, Set Boundaries: The psychology of getting your needs met
Chapters:
00:00 Setting boundaries for how you want to be treated
02:58 Boundaires in life Example
05:10 Why boundaries need balance
07:19 10 signs of poor boundaries
07:35 Difficulty making decisions
07:58 Feeling selfish for saying no
08:18 Frequent apologizing
08:49 Uncertainty about what to share
09:13 Passive aggressiveness
09:49 Losing sense of self
10:10 Need for external validation
10:26 Resentment
10:43 Constant sense of fatigue
11:02 Dramatic relationships
11:34 Abusive situations
15:03 Identifying crap boundaries
15:14 Floppy boundary
17:22 Rigid boundary
19:10 Why we struggle with boundaries
23:09 Creating healthy boundaries
23:39 Personal boundaries
24:07 Social boundaries
25:24 Value-based boundaries
26:43 Communicating boundaries
28:25 Traffic light framework
31:58 The importance of independence
34:41 Book suggestions
35:22 Send off
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