When your emotions are so up and down based on this other person they're being regulated only in this way when you cut off that source they have nothing to respond to anymore. They don't have that stimulus. When you're not fighting against something you can only think really do is just kind of cry and be a mess. That's what I had like with this other person who was like not that I think one of the disclaimers we wanted to give is like I think two people can be toxic for each other but aren't necessarily bad people. And it doesn't mean that like your experience was any less valid because this person you know, may everyone else think so pretty lovely. But there