How to Make Technology Calm and Bearable

I've spent hours setting up my Apple Watch to make it work the way I wanted to. And for the others, it doesn't because the default settings suck really. The default settings is what's going to make or break the future device. How much time can you and do you need to invest to make your technology calm and bearable? And pay attention to other technology. Because at times I feel like I'm drowning already.