The Ego and the Power of Surrender

"I think so often we are locked into a pattern of control. We want to control how we're perceived by people," she says. "So I'm going to be something that I'm not so that you'll love me and that's a form of control" Ego is what we perceive ourselves to be based on body named form past experiences, he writes. The sense of who we need to be to get approval becomes a strategy for being safe in the world.