How Do You Move the Ness?

i think i quite tracking with the question bot our marriage and the alender center, your family. What do you know you bring into those plays that moves the needle? I'm just trying to im educate myself and act in a way that, again, as help where i'm getting to become more fully myself. A, i realize that's a bit per say. But that is in response to wanting to, a, wanting to grow and offer deep goodness for the other.