The Importance of Ambivalence in Relationships

We all have some small or big part of us that's like this. Most of us will walk around with just unconscious, largely unconscious, fear about intimacy and partnership because it brings up stuff from the past. You can't be in an intimate relationship long-term over many years and not get your stuff brought up as a trigger. Your partner might use language that makes it about you. I'm here to say it's not about you. Just know that this is a very human thing and we don't necessarily want to judge people for being ambivalent"