"I felt uncomfortable with all the religious and other aspects of the funeral," she says. "The party part, not even because you're drinking, but it's almost like the anxiety of the ceremony is over so people can let loose." She finds weddings often done in what I felt was like an oddly formal way.
In part 3 of our 3-part series, Steph and Cal discuss how they planned a wedding in 10 days, what they did (including traditions kept and scrapped), and the pros and cons of taking a less conventional approach to marriage.