In two parent homes, it is not uncommon for parents to actually have two different wins in mind. And when that's the case, parents parent at cross purposes without even realizing it. Most parents are so busy parenting that they never stop to consider what they're parenting to. If you don't pause long enough to consider the direction in which you are parenting, you may wake up one day to the realization that you parented in the wrong direction. It's the principle of the path that direction ultimately determines destination.