This chapter explores the concept of rumination and its effect on our conversations. It discusses why people in their 20s often replay conversations in their minds and how rumination provides an illusion of control. The chapter also examines the negative aspects of rumination, such as keeping ourselves stuck in past memories and causing anticipatory anxiety.
Have you ever had the experience of leaving a conversation and feeling like something you said was off, you sounded weird, you were awkward, worrying about what this person may think of you? This experience is much more common than we think and in today’s episode we break down the psychology behind why we replay conversations, exploring:
- Rumination
- The illusion of control
- Social approval
- Hypervigilance
- Rejection sensitivity dysphoria
- Social anxiety, and more
We often place the perceptions and opinions of others on a pedestal and try to closely manage their judgements of us, but that may not always be helpful. We also explore ways you can break out of the thought spiral and regain control. Listen now!
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