my relationship with my boyfriend things will start to go a little askew and he'll be like I just want you to notice that you haven't taken a deep breath in like two minutes and I will take some deep breaths and realize that my my whole body shut down to the point where I was only getting these little tiny shallow breaths and if I can take a moment to just breathe and kind of trick my body into deep breaths it starts to kind of have a reverse reaction where my body starts to act like I'm calm because I'm taking breaths like I do when I'm calm because I can't ask myself a question when I'm in one of those feelings or in that space I mean when I'm in that space I can't ask myself what's really going on because I don't know because I am so out of the room that I can't have that rational conversation with myself quite yet my first step has to be can I take enough deep breaths to where I remember that I'm a spirit in a brain in a body on earth in a universe like I just you know yeah the physical thing has to get me back so I can talk to myself which is

funny because to me the simple question of like where am I what's going on is more like the idea of breathing that seems like too ambitious if I'm filled with rage or whatever I'm like okay slowing down to breathe if like again if it works for you great but to me that's almost like higher level well I can't do the

thing that you're saying of I can't get my brain to function that way until I have been able to calm my nervous system down a little bit I

would say if it works whatever works and you have to

try