Episode 130: How to Stop Internally Beating Yourself Up
Being Human
The Importance of Self-Importance
Narcissism comes from a place of needing to prove our goodness and our value, he says. "It's an emotional reaction when other people don't see our goodness" But self-importance is built on understanding that the self is made in the image of God, Paul writes.
Each of us has different internal parts, and some parts - especially our critical parts - can seem louder than others. How are we supposed to love all of these parts of ourselves, especially if certain parts want to act in unhealthy ways? This week, Dr. Greg takes a deeper dive into the concept of “parts work” while breaking open how it’s possible to love every part of ourselves - even those parts we consider to be “bad.”
Highlights from the episode:
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We all have different parts of ourselves, and none of them are “bad”;
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Why it’s healthy to allow all of our parts to give voice to their perspective, even if what a particular part wants is not what we decide to do;
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How taking time to understand where our desire for certain unhealthy behaviors comes from can help to reveal the deeper reasons for the behavior;
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Healing as a process of reframing and “repurposing” parts to help them take on a different job;
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The importance of self-awareness in the process of creatively redirecting problematic parts;
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Loving and accepting all parts of ourselves helps build rapport to work with them towards positive change.
Resources mentioned or relevant:
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Past Being Human Episodes on Internal Family Systems and Parts Work:
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Episode #35: Why Do I Feel Like I Have Conflicting Parts? w/ Dr. Peter Malinoski;
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Episode #47: How to Turn Your Inner Worst Enemies Into Your Inner Best Friends;
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Introduction to Internal Family Systems by Richard Schwartz;
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No Bad Parts by Richard Schwartz;
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