An Ode To Ken From The Barbie Movie
Beyond Success
Power Dynamics and Emasculation in Relationships
The speaker shares a personal experience of feeling emasculated and powerless after a breakup in Singapore, where their ex-girlfriend had more social power and connections. They discuss a specific incident at a nightclub that highlighted power dynamics in relationships.
After reviewing the Barbie movie, many listeners wrote angry emails and comments to me. They didn’t like the way the Kens were treated in the movie, but I did. In fact, I saw Ken as the hero in the movie.
Why?
Well, years ago, after discovering my girlfriend of 5 years cheated on me, I stood on the 57th floor of the Marina Bay Sands Hotel looking down trying to jump. Even though I didn’t, I let my rage and hatred consume me.
Because of this rage and hatred I felt, the Red Pill world appealed to me. I dove deep into Red Pill material at the time… and while it helped me feel good temporarily, it didn’t serve me or my relationship pursuits in the long term. If I had continued down that road, I never would have found fulfillment in life, attracted my wife, or have had a successful marriage with anyone.
And that’s why the Ken character relates to me. At a certain point in the movie, Barbie tells Ken that he needs to discover who he is without her. And this is something all men need to discover if they want to have a successful, 50+ year marriage.
In this episode, I reveal how I went through this transformation from being suicidal to finding myself, how you can do it too, and why doing so is the most important thing you can do for your happiness and the health of your future relationships.
Listen now!
Show Highlights:
- Did the Barbie movie’s depiction of Ken anger you? Here’s why Ken isn’t meant to represent all men… (12:45)
- Why discovering that my girlfriend of 5 years cheated on me made me want to off myself (and how this story can save your life if you’re going through a similar situation) (17:47)
- The insidious mindset Ken has towards Barbie which many guys subconsciously mimic (and why this mindset demolishes your joy) (19:20)
- How I fell hook, line, and sinker into the Red Pill world (and why leaving this world is responsible for my incredible marriage today) (21:06)
- The “RSR” secret to prepare you to get into and strengthen any relationship you have (even if it’s a casual one) (25:45)
- Why public posting on social media between couples is a major red flag (33:07)
- Has an ex cheated on you? Here’s why revenge anger will only leave you more isolated and depressed (37:02)
- The single best piece of advice Barbie gave Ken in the Barbie movie (and how this sentence can instantly make you more attractive to women) (47:04)
- The weird way being a successful pickup artist prevents you from experiencing true love (even if it helps you get into bed with attractive ladies) (50:58)
- How “womansplaining” helps you understand women at a deeper level and unlocks a more attractive version of yourself to them (59:47)
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