We sort of reinforce the dependency without realizing it. If a kid wants to watch t v and i say no, and they throw a temper tantrum, what is that reinforcing? That's actually reinforcing temper tantrums, get me the t v. So as they escalate and you feel guilty in you cave, you're actually creating more emotional dependency down the road. What do you do if that escalation leads them to panic anxiety atacks? Great question. Gun down.