500: Behind The Scenes Of My Shame Storm - During An Interview About Shame
Therapy Chat
Attachment, Asking for Help, and Early Blueprints
Laura discusses how early neglect shapes beliefs about needing to handle pain alone and the pain of asking for help.
This week, in a special 500th episode of Therapy Chat, I shared a behind the scenes look at what happened when I got bad news right before a LIVE, in person interview with Janina Fisher on shame.
I talked about the profound challenges of asking for help, especially for those of us who have experienced emotional or physical neglect. In a twist from the usual Therapy Chat episode, I talked about my process, sharing what was happening with my Parts and how I understood what was happening through the lens of trauma and attachment.
And I shared the beautiful surprise that happened after I fell apart and how it helped me along my healing journey. I hope this episode will help you along your journey and offer you a compassionate perspective on how early childhood experiences can shape our unconscious beliefs about our safety in the world.
Key Takeaways from This Episode:
- Reflect on your own "blueprint" from early childhood experiences regarding asking for help and trusting others.
- Recognize shame as a potential trauma reaction and practice self-compassion when it arises.
- Challenge the illusion of control and release the burden of preventing every negative outcome.
- Seek out and embrace "corrective emotional experiences" where you allow yourself to be vulnerable and receive support.
- Prioritize genuine connection and community to combat isolation and foster reciprocal relationships.
- Give yourself permission to "be human" and express your authentic self.
- What if you try giving connection a chance? It might just change your life.
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