Sai: I've found it perplexing for many years that most of my straight women friends are single, and i don't. And they also have beter women that are better than them, almost all of them do. If you live in new york or miami, it massively favors the man. Sai: You need to put yourself in a position of as much success, or random success, as possible. Accept opportunities to go to dinner with people. Get out. Put yourself in a situation to talk to strangers.