Sophie: You don't have to cram your lifestyle into someone else's boundaries. Holly: I live pretty clutter free and I'm not a materialistic person at all. But my dilemma is after my husband passed away, his belongings are the only tangible things I have left to smell and see and feel. And even worse, the trauma of his unexpected death has also caused me to be clingy with all my kids' items too. So I want to live in the now, but I can't help but worry about having regrets in the future.