Navigating Wedding Costs and Societal Expectations

Why are Orthodox Jewish weddings so expensive? 💸

In some circles, it’s normal to spend over $120,000 on a single wedding. My friend Mayer Gold joins us to break down why this happens – and whether we can actually change it.

You can contact Mayer here: mayergold@gmail.com

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CHAPTERS:

00:00 Intro

01:43 Who is Mayer Gold?

02:14 Making a $23,000 Wedding

05:32 Making 5 Different Weddings

08:25 It Takes 2 Sides to Make a Wedding

11:25 Discussing Finances Before Engagement

13:18 Making Bar Mitzvahs Nowadays

15:40 Sushi

16:36 Kesem Media – Where Marketing Results Feel Like Magic!

18:07 BitBean – BitBean Has Big AI News

19:34 Small vs. Big Weddings

22:54 Involving Your Children in Financial Decisions

25:18 Making Engagement Parties

27:49 The Different Costs for Different Circles in Orthodox World

31:44 Use Your Wealth Correctly

34:12 Who Are You Really Making the Wedding For?

37:04 The Benefits of Takana Weddings

38:04 $10,000 for Flowers??

40:22 The Costs of Makeup

43:00 Wedding Invitations

44:30 Are People Really Going Into Debt from Making a Wedding?

45:32 Twillory – Awesome Men’s Clothing

47:06 Colel Chabad – Helping Holocaust Survivors

48:23 The Over-the-Top Gift Giving

49:54 Gift Giving

53:18 Practical Ideas to Help Save Money

1:01:45 We Need to Start Teaching the Younger Generation

1:02:28 More Helpful Money Tips

1:07:33 Outro

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