In this episode, I unravel how to extend connection to our children while acknowledging that some might see this connection as a threat. I offer insights on toning down the demand for connection, enabling our children to relax in it, and thereby strengthen their stress response system. I also reference the previous episodes in this four-part series by talking about the science of opposition, some practical strategies, and tackling kids stuck in protection mode, all with the aim of providing a comprehensive understanding of making connection a safe experience.
In this episode you’ll learn:
- That providing too much connection can often be overwhelming and feel more like danger than connection
- To titrate connection and supply only as much as the child needs or wants
- Showing your child you think of them when are not together like buying their favorite snack, titrates connection by showing that you are thinking of them and you see them
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