Louis CK: To really be a great leader, we don't need to be better. We need to help other people be better and then our whole organizations get better. "Emotional regulation is the ability to navigate, manage and flow with your emotions," he says. A lot of men just don't want to face processing emotions because it's 'not acceptable' He suggests that women talk about their insecurities or relationship struggles once a week as part of an ongoing healing process.