I feel like every child has a little bit of like curiosity around kind of you know her sexual beings and there's like some curiosity around that even as a child I've actually talked to my wife about this and she even had mentioned things from her childhood so it was very interesting to see like that it wasn't just me but it's not just you yeah. So anyways that's kind of where it began and it was never really talked about it was very hush-hush in our house  and then the wrong types of friends introduced me to pornography at age 11 or 12. Yeah you can still like that be difficult yeah.Yeah we've got two kids Adrian Rayleigh four-